What happens when you realize that you're attracted to a friend? Do you go through "Oh Shit" Syndrome and back completely off of them? Do you start talking to them more often, and try to flirt? What if you're scared? What if none of your friends talk to this person; does that make it easier, or harder? Will they judge you?
Erase those questions.
Feelings are feelings, no matter who they are for. It's okay to date friends, it's okay to date people outside of your social circle, and it's okay to want to. Happiness isn't sold at drug stores, you can't just go out and pick up a prescription and expect to fall in love with the next person you lay eyes on. Happiness comes whenever it comes, and that's that. The feeling of happiness with someone is so extraordinary that if you tried to explain what you felt for said friend, people might have a hard time understanding it. They might think they understand; but they might not have felt that way before, so it is different to them. They're trying to understand, or maybe they're living vicariously through you. Regardless, the above questions are completely irrelevant - if you have feelings for someone: GO FOR IT!
If they're your friend, talk to them about it. True friendship will withstand some awkward moments of "I like you" if the other person doesn't feel the same way. If your friends don't talk to the person, maybe it's easier because they can't tell you "what's wrong with them" to make you change your mind. If your friends judge you, are they really your friends?
Consider going for your feelings in the case of trying to start something with someone. Ignore the questions you have in your head about what your friends might think and just go for it. Be spontaneous, and don't take advice right from the start - you never know where it will take you.
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Sorry it's been so long since I updated. I had an amazing time on my trip to Europe, it was fantastic! I'll post pictures if you ask me to, but I'm not going to do it without anyone asking, cuz I figure it'd probably be a boring post if I did that.
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All of these pictures were brought to Xanga by me, I found them elsewhere:
